My pastor once said, “under two clouds friends rarely meet.” I met my friend last yesterday afternoon. We both cried for like the first ten minutes because it had been so long since I had seen her. When I was crying I was just thinking about how nice it was to see her and to see someone that had known me since my youth. We had a lot of catching up to do. When my pastor said that to me it was in a dream. My parents drank a lot when I was young. I had to babysit my younger sister when most of my friends were out together. I developed sort of an indifferent relationship with my friends from school. I thought that they would never be around to help me with my sister and this made me angry and it made me feel isolated and alone in the world. My parents used me to meet their needs at the time. Their needs centered around addiction. They were the two clouds. This post is about addiction, how it can destroy us and what we can do to fight back.
Kids brought up in addictive families often feel guilt. This is how the spirit of addiction can destroy children. Guilt causes us to destroy ourselves from the inside. Many dark spirits come from addiction. Guilt is a very heavy one that weighs on the back of the children that live in addictive families. It is often bigger than the kids and can drive them into addictive lifestyles long into adulthood. It is self destructive much like a spirit described in a sermon I heard recently. The pastor described it as a spirit of Jezebel – which does not represent a rebellious or opinionated woman but rather a spirit of self destruction – irrational fear and suicide. It is the spirit Elijah was tormented with when he fought with Jezebel who sought to take his life after he had killed 800 of her prophets. The irrational fear being that Jezebel had any power over Elijah when God had just shown that he was overwhelmingly in favor of Elijah.
Parents who suffer from addiction are dangerous because they no longer are operating consciously. It is their addiction that is operating and controlling their lives. My parents would often go out drinking two nights a week and come home late after driving drunk and sleep in the next day until around four in the afternoon. The whole weekend was eaten up by me watching, feeding and caring for them and my sister. I lived a somber existence on the weekends. My only joy was watching SNL at 12:30am on Saturday night. After that I watched Tales from the Crypt. That is where I became aware of dark things no child should ever see. My dad would fall down a lot when he was drunk. The scary thing was that both my mom and dad were out of control.
I don’t write this to shame them. I only wish more people understood this process in order to avoid being sucked into it.
Addiction is a form of idolatry. It gives full spiritual and physical control over a person to their god which is their substance of choice.
Addiction is a cruel master. it will drive you and your family into the ground and destroy your mind, body and resources – including friendships. Friendships are important but they rarely survive when one person is suffering under the consequences of addiction.
Addictive substances often dull pain because it is the demon’s way of numbing your senses in order to gain full spiritual control over you. When you don’t feel what the demons are doing to your spirit you don’t even realize they are hurting you. You won’t even attempt to do what you need to do cast them out. You won’t seek spiritual help – friends, family, pastors, church family. The demons cause you to isolate by using shame. They cause you to hurt others with behavior that is not even your own and then make you feel shame for your apparent lack of self control and destructive nature.
Life’s existence can be painful. But usually pain is not naturally present where disease is absent. What I’m saying is that demons cause pain. When you are not in the presence of bad spirits, you are less likely to sin, therefore you are less likely to have disease and pain. Disease and pain are a product of the curse which Christians are not subject to because Christ is their body and he never sinned.
What can we do to stop addiction if we are in the midst of it? Well, I think it’s helpful to say there is nothing we can do to fight addiction by ourselves. Not only do we need friends, more importantly, we need love. We need Christ to beat the spirits that are driving our addiction. He is the only one strong enough to do it. We need to pray and ask for Christ’s help. He can cure any addiction.