A person asked on another website, "How can I overcome an addiction to Internet porn?" I think I can help someone with this question. As we are all users of the Internet and some of us access it in the privacy of our home or office we all know there is a temptation to succumb to Internet sources of pornography. I firmly believe that Internet pornography is one of the devil’s favorite venues to creep into a person’s home and heart. Internet porn can be as filthy as one can imagine filthy, from incestuous, bestiality, sadomasochism, and perhaps what I consider the worst — child pornography. The most detrimental attribute to Internet pornography is that it is so highly personal and such a secretive addiction that it can easily become consuming for the person it afflicts. There is a way to overcome it and I’d like to talk about some ideas in this posting. From here on out when I talk about pornography you can generalize the term to mean all perverse sexual addictions that concern media, from x-rated films to romance novels, to even nude magazines.
Get It Out of Your Reach
Getting rid of a porn addiction can be like getting rid of a chocolate addiction, in a small way. If it’s not at your fingertips you will not be able to watch it or in the case of chocolate — eat it. So my advice is to purge it from your habitat or workspace. If it’s on your computer (this may sound extreme), back up your important data and reload your operating system. This will wipe out any pictures or videos you may have stored on your hard drive or in your list of favorites on your web browser. If you don’t know how to save good data like Word or Excel files (etc.) you can take it to the Geek Squad or some similar computer-friendly establishment who will do it for you. While you are there you can also have them reload the operating system (Windows or whatever operating system Apple uses). This will cost roughly $100 for the service. If you allow them to back it up they can use the stored operating system already on your computer. If you do it you may run into some difficulties and end up wiping out your entire operating systems’ natural backup.
Similarly, if you watch pornographic films cut up your blockbuster card, put a filter on your TV’s cable so that you can only watch non-pornographic material, and throw away your dirty magazines and books. Next, cancel all subscriptions you may have that are related to your addiction. Don’t leave anything behind because the slightest hint of anything left can lull you back into your addictive behaviors.
Get Away from the Temptors
Thirdly, if you have any friends with the same addiction who help contribute to yours, delete their numbers from your phone and don’t accept their calls. It sounds extreme but really, they’ll get over it and you don’t need that kind of influence in your life until you’ve proven you can rebuke temptation and stay away from it. Also, delete their email addresses or send a forward to them and all of your other porn subscribing friends saying that you no longer wish to receive emails of that nature. If the emails don’t stop coming, change your email address and give the new one to only people who you trust not to send porn links or pictures.
The fourth thing I would do to overcome an addiction to porn is to speak with your pastor or Christian friend whom you trust and confess your addiction. This will bring it into the light so that you can start to deal with the emotional needs you are trying to meet through watching/reading porn. "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective," (James 5:16 NIV).
The male mind supposedly has over 200 sexual-natured thoughts daily whereas the female brain only has maybe two or three. For this reason I suggest that you try to meet your needs in a healthy way. Perhaps you should try dating or if you are married try suggesting that you spend more time with your wife meeting your sexual needs. If your partner isn’t responsive then you have a problem but not one that God can’t solve. I don’t advise fornication — or sex outside of marriage, either. Jesus says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart," (Matthew 5:28 NIV).
Cry Out to Jesus
The bible says to "Cast all your anxiety on God because He cares for you," (1 Peter 5:7 NIV). Pray about your situation and ask the Holy Spirit to take the temptation away or to give you more strength to overcome it. God will never fail you when you ask Him to help you overcome a sin. Pornography viewing is not specifically mentioned in the bible because obviously, there was not an Internet to surf, magazines or even picture books in bible days. However, prostitution was condemned as were incestuous behaviors, bestiality, and even looking at a woman lustfully as sins. No sin is greater than another because if you’ve broken the law at one point you’ve broken all of it (James 2:10). Therefore, it is wise to get this addiction out of your life before it destroys your relationship with your family, your co-workers, neighbors, friends, and last, but certainly not least, God.
Get Rid of the Demons
I would recommend seeing a counselor to help you unload some of your anxiety surrounding the issue. There are probably a multitude of factors that contribute to your addiction. You will need to identify them then get rid of them. If you are a Christian filled with the Holy Spirit, you can purge your life of the demons that plague you by doing two things, throw out their material, and then, throw them out. To cast out a demon, you can pray to Jesus to take it away or you can simply yell, "Get out you perverse demon," every time a tempting thought comes to mind. This tells the realm of darkness that you aren’t going to succumb to their perversity. The devil has tailor-made Internet porn for every type of perversity that exists. If you can think of it - you can find it on the Internet. That is why I advise putting some accountability in your life. You can do this by only using the Internet in public or have someone you trust comb your files now and then to be sure you’re not falling into old sin.
I hope this posting has helped you. If not, you can write to me by using the "contact" link at the top of the page. If you have any questions, I’d be happy to help. Most importantly, make sure to seek God’s counsel and the help of the Holy Spirit. Through Christ you can do all things, (Philippians 4:13). "But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one" (2 Thessalonians 3:3 NIV).